Marriage customs: men should get married when they are old enough, and women should get married when they are old enough. When men and women reach marriageable age, "the boy's family asks for matchmaking, and the girl's family looks for matchmaking". "No matchmaking, three trips". Even if the two sides have a love foundation, the girl's parents are responsible for their daughter's lifelong affairs, and they have to ask the matchmaker to make more trips before they can "put the word out". If the girl is not interested, she will refuse with various reasons, and the matchmaker will not come to her house again. Only when both parties agree can they "recognize the door", also known as "look at the door". The matchmaker takes the boy to the girl's house, introduces the situation to both parents, and asks for their opinions in person. After the man and woman express their consent, after a period of contact and conversation, the next step is "engagement", also known as "engagement". The matchmaker shuttles back and forth to negotiate and select an auspicious day, and exchange engagement gifts. The parents and relatives of both sides meet and get to know each other, and the marriage is officially established from then on. The boy visits the girl's house to pay New Year's greetings and give gifts during festivals. When the legal age for marriage is reached, the two sides go through the marriage procedures and then hold the wedding. The wedding date must be agreed in advance. The woman's family prepares the dowry, and the man's family cleans up the new house and prepares the gift. When the wedding date arrives, the man will go to meet the bride. The groom, the matchmaker, and the gift-giving master will go together to "deliver the gift" and "carry the dowry". When meeting the bride, gifts and the bride's jewelry and fabrics must be brought. The bride's family must tie the "happiness" character and "magpies making a fuss about plum blossoms" and "hundreds of flowers welcoming spring" on red paper. The gift is placed first at the woman's house, and the groom pays respects to his father-in-law, mother-in-law and other relatives. The woman's dowry is tied with a big red "happiness" character and handed over to the man's "gift-giving master" before the cannon can be fired to "send the bride". Before leaving her mother, the girl must cry the night before, until the "send-off" the next day. First, she cries for the grace of her parents' upbringing, second, she cries for the love of her brothers and sisters, and third, she cries for the friendship of her relatives and friends. She cries with tears and is touching. There are also fake crying, most of them are just pretending, pretending to be real. Some girls can't hold back their temper, and when others tease them, they burst out laughing, causing their relatives and friends to laugh and accuse them of "fake crying for Jingzhou". There are also those who cry for "bride price" or "dowry", and for trivial matters, and they are often ridiculed. Nowadays, most girls in mountainous areas don't cry, why cry for a happy event! In the past, the bride was picked up by walking in the mountainous areas, and by bicycle in the dam, but now they are all picked up by car. The bride is picked up at the village, gets off the car and gets on the sedan chair. The man prepares the sedan chair, and the father-in-law and brother of the husband's family carry it into the new house. After packing the dowry, the wedding is held with cannons. The parents-in-law put on makeup and dress up as boatmen and boatmen, with - on their faces. The father-in-law carries a blowpipe on his back and a long pipe in his hand, asking his daughter-in-law to light cigarettes, squeeze balloons, and toast. The mother-in-law stands beside him with a vinegar jar on her back and a monocle on her face, opening and closing one eye. There are many programs, mainly to make the father-in-law and mother-in-law look bad and entertain the guests. Then the father-in-law takes the daughter-in-law's hand and walks around the banquet, causing laughter. It is unknown when this uncivilized custom originated, but it is still popular in plains. This bad habit is not used in mountainous areas. However, there is a custom of recruiting a husband in mountainous areas. In the past, "child bride", "child marriage", "polygamy", and "polyandry" were not considered strange. Men in the mountains had high labor intensity, and hunting and logging often resulted in injuries and disabilities. Only then could a woman recruit another man to support her ex-husband and children, and take care of the elderly and the young. When the son grows up, the son-in-law is often driven away, so there is a saying that "a man who comes to the door for two and a half years or three years is a pervert". It is now very common for a son-in-law to change his name and surname and take care of the elderly and see him to the end of his life. In mountainous areas, there is also a "ritual" for raising a boy, to find a son-in-law to take care of him in his old age. If the daughter is filial and the son-in-law is obedient, the boy will be sent out to be someone else's son-in-law, and the mother will live with her daughter.