The Yao people are a nation that values etiquette. The Han people have the bad habit of male superiority and female inferiority, but the Yao people do not have the idea of favoring boys over girls. In the Yao family, people are equally happy to have a boy or a girl. In the Yao village, there is no marriage between a man and a woman. Instead, both men and women can visit each other's home. When the parents of both sides grow old, they are supported by the young couple, without distinction. Therefore, there are no "daughter-marrying songs" and "bridegroom-congratulating songs" in the Yao village, but there are wedding songs on the wedding night. Yao wedding On the day of the Yao youth's wedding, the man sends the groom to the woman's home (or the woman can send the daughter to the man's home). They first talk about etiquette and count the lucky words "big success in the imperial examination, small success in the bridal chamber. Flowers are placed on the left, and two lotus flowers bloom in the fairyland; flowers are placed on the right, and the wise words are happy in the next life, and the husband and wife are equal and live a hundred years together". After that, both sides show courtesy to each other before letting the newlyweds worship and get married. Afterwards, the host and the guests sat down and drank 36 cups of wine. When they picked up the cups, the singing began: One cup of wine, sent to the stage, persuade the girl to drink, the man came to filter. Persuade the girl to drink this cup of wine, ten cups of wine again, the man is on stage. Two cups of wine, a pair, persuade the girl to drink without panic. Persuade the girl to drink this pair of wine, after drinking the wine, think slowly and then sing the ten cups of wine. During the banquet, the suona gave orders, and it was very lively. Halfway through the banquet, the host cleared the table, smoked, and let the guests rest. At this time, young people looked for opponents, and young men and women also took the opportunity to find partners. The singing went up and down, turning a welcoming wine into a singing competition. Shi Liuqing saw that the girl was born so smart, a smart sister, just like Li Xiuying back then. At the age of fourteen, Shangguan took the exam, and the girl was the only one who passed the exam. If you get a girl alone, it is like the singing of the civil and military officials sitting in the court. They can sing for a long time, and then they go to the table to drink and sing. After drinking 36 cups of wine, the banquet is removed from the main hall, and all the young people are asked to sing. They sing until dawn. These songs are not like the garden songs and congratulatory songs of the Han people in Xing'an, each of which has only four sentences, but are mostly arranged songs, and they sing more than ten songs at a time. There are all kinds of songs such as "Ten Dan of Gold", "Twelve Months", "Twelve Months of Zhu Yingtai", "Ten Sentences", and "Ten Sentences of Songs", which not only express the mutual admiration, longing and praise of men and women, but also recount the hardships of life. The lyrics often use ancient people and events to metaphorize themselves. They sing for two or three hours, and some sing all night. After drinking, people send the bridegroom and the groom into the bridal chamber, and they also sing while walking: One thought, two thoughts, three thoughts of mother, five thoughts, six thoughts of becoming a couple. Thinking about my beautiful mother seven times and eight times, thinking about her nine times and ten times, breaking my heart. The next morning, the guests were about to leave, and the host and the guest exchanged pleasantries. The bride's brothers and sisters sang as they sent her off: Brother, brother, don't be in a hurry, it doesn't matter if you wait for me for three steps. It doesn't matter if you wait for me for three steps, I have three things to discuss. Brother, brother, don't be in a hurry, I have three things to discuss. Don't drink water from the river, there are leeches in the water in the river. The mother-in-law also told him with deep affection: "Respect the old and love the young, don't forget, the family is harmonious and happy." Amid the sound of firecrackers, the groom waved goodbye and the bride stayed for three or four days or half a month before returning to the man's home.