Tongguan is located in the middle reaches of the Yellow River and was the first to be civilized. In the past, marriage customs always followed the old system of the previous kings, which required the parents' orders and the matchmaker's words. When the first engagement was made, the man first took a pair of earrings and gave them to the woman, which was called engagement. Then the man's family prepared clothes, jewelry and other items and sent them to the woman's family on an auspicious day, which was called promise. It means that the woman has agreed to this marriage, and it is also called eating noodles, because the woman entertained the matchmaker on this day and ate noodles, which means a long-term and permanent marriage. Now the customs are simpler than before, divided into engagement, housekeeping, and recognition. Engagement is that the matchmaker goes back and forth to negotiate, obtains the consent of the man and the woman, and agrees to meet and talk at a certain place. If both parties have no objection, they will give each other gifts as proof. The so-called housekeeping means that the man chooses an auspicious day, invites the woman to his house to see the house, holds a banquet to entertain her, and buys clothes, commonly known as breaking clothes. On this day, the woman is the main party, and the banquet is required to be rich. The bride's family chooses an auspicious day to invite the groom to their home to recognize the bride's family, and invites relatives to accompany the banquet and toast. The relatives give the unmarried son-in-law a piece of cloth. Marrying: The groom's family sends the prepared dowry, wine and meat boxes, clothes hangers, and food to the bride's family one day in advance, because the person in charge of the groom's family on that day has to worship the bride's three generations of ancestors. This is called "xingli". In recent years, it has been simplified and is commonly known as "urging the box". Firecrackers are set off before entering the village and before eating. On the day of the wedding, there used to be sedan chairs and horses, but now they are all welcomed by car. Usually the son-in-law goes to welcome the bride, accompanied by people carrying boxes, moving dowry, and setting off firecrackers. The bride's relatives send the bride off and hold a wedding ceremony, which is called "guoshishi". The next day, the groom goes to his father-in-law's house to recognize his relatives and neighbors. The father-in-law's family also sets a banquet to entertain him. This is called recognizing the door, which means that the groom first comes to know the door of his father-in-law's house. It is also called returning to the door, which means that the new daughter-in-law went out yesterday and came back today, and returned with the son-in-law in the afternoon. After a daughter-in-law has been married for seven or eight days, she will go back to her parents' home. This is called "Chu Shi". Generally, she will stay at her parents' home for seven or eight days. People often say, "Go seven and come back eight, both ends are prosperous." When a daughter-in-law gets on a sedan chair (car), she must change into another pair of shoes to show that she will not step on the soil of her parents' home. Originally, when a daughter-in-law leaves her parents' home, she will get off the kang, first step on the wash basin, then stand on the felt, and then change the felt to get on the sedan chair (car). Now there is no such strict rules, and this set of rules has also been simplified.